Feb 5, 2009

Totally Clueless


Ok, this is a true story. Name of culprit has been changed to save protect hide their identity.

Clueless: Hi Ruth, i haven't seen you in ages
Ruth: Hi Clueless, I know, its been forever

Formalities ensue, time passes...

Clueless: So, when are you guys going to start having babies?
Ruth: Well, we've been infertile for 7 years and it breaks my heart everytime someone asks, we've been trying for 7 years!
Clueless: Well, you know the Bible says to be fruitful AND MULTIPLY!
Ruth: Really? Wow! I've never heard that before! What a revelation! True
Clueless: Cause, you know, you're not getting any younger!
Ruth: ya, i'm quite aware of it i'm not.

More verbal lashing follows....

Clueless: Well, it was so good to run into you. We should get together sometime!
Ruth: Not if I can help it. I need to keep my heart in tact as much as possible ya, for sure.

I'm not sure why I don't say what I'm thinking. But if you read my last post, you'll know all that is going to change. :)

14 comments:

Unknown said...

*sigh* I guess some people don't have that compassion built into them. I love you Ruth! And I kinda hope "clueless" reads your blog.

Tamara said...

..What in the holy world??? Some people are just..well, stupid.

Jenny said...

Stupid is an understatement. People say the rudest things. I had someone say to me last year..."it must be really hard to have a husband that's so much better looking than you!"...
I responded with, "skinnier yes...but Scott always maintains that he doesn't understand how he could have ended up with someone like me!"
I was sooo ripped!!!
Another one that boils my blood is..."oh Jenny(while looking at a picture) you used to be so pretty!"...
Sad...
Phewf...now I'm all worked up!!LOL
Next time put the idiots in line and say, "we're well aware what is said in the bible, unfortunately we are dealing with issues of infertility and this is something we deal with on a day to day basis!"
Then watch their mouths drop!!

Lynnie Ha said...

mnrfl mnrfl mnrfrl.... me MAD! garrr......

seriously, some people... i know how it feels (on a simpler issue, mind you) - a couple weeks ago someone said 'with the haircut' (ie dreads gone), 'and well, you keep losing weight... you're a pretty lady!'.....

'aw, thanks'....((("GIMME THAT CLUB!!!!!!"))) ... they think they are being encouraging, but in fact punched you in the gut.... *sighs*

...anyways, very 'well put' post... love ya hun

Lynnie Ha said...

ps. it sounds like you handled the difficult situation well (outwardly, anyways!).... well done, hun. :)

Tanya said...

Aw Ruth! Don't ya just want to smack people like that???? I'm sorry you had to go through that...some people just don't think at all and thats pretty sad!

joni said...

Two of my friends deal with that same issue, and Christians have been the worst..encourages...
sigh...

we all have our "people" i guess.. it is a hard balance to educate without actually snapping.

sorry Ruth..
Do speak your mind!.. real is still better than the glazed smile... really.

Lynnie Ha said...

yes... what good is a glazed smile...? it is in reality a lie, a falsehood... thanks for sharing that, joni - for me! (i hope it blesses ruthie as much, tho! :) )... i needed to read that... may it give us the boldness to speak the truth!!! (((hugs)))

Anita said...

ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME????

Sometimes words aren't enough for the 'clueless' of the world. Next time just go all ninja on their ass... then run away. This means you'll have to get a bigger purse to hide your nunchucks.
Hugs to you.. even though I'm not usually a hugger. <3

starla said...

oh I wish I had been there!!! Maybe its better that I wasn't.

starla said...

Oh and Jenny, I dont' understand that at all!!! I think you are so amazingly beautiful!!!

Gwen said...

I'm sorry that happened to you. Sadly there are a lot of people (incl. me) who say stupid things without thinking. It's hard when they hit a sore spot, isn't it? Try to let it go...

{{hug}}

Adam said...

Reminds me of a Denis Leary song!

J.G. said...

HAHAHA Denis Leary wrote that song specifically for just such an occasion!